![]() ![]() So while the honesty-challenged population may be on the outs, I’m not so closed-minded to assume they’re all toxic. It’s the chronic liars, the toxic ones, where you question almost everything said because of their strong allergy to being truthful. These aren’t the types of liars that are up for debate. Saying someone looks great when you don’t mean it, a nice, potentially harmful gesture, but still a lie. Saying you’re fine when your emotions are as emo as a teenager who’s just found out Justin Beiber married Hailey and not Selena, a lie. I don’t mean to sound pessimistic, it’s just many don’t realize the small things they say that are actually lies. Now, for the sake of honesty because title, I’d like to note that most people are liars, inherently so. “It isn’t that big of a deal,” “you’re being judgemental,” “people can’t help lying.” How is this a thing in 2019? Sure, ten years ago I’d have been ignorance’s number one fan - buying merch and following its social media - but in that time span, I’ve stopped MySpacing, overplucking my brows and, thankfully, shirking accountability. With that said, I’ve given up defending myself a long time ago, mostly because my opinion doesn’t have to suit anyone’s needs but my own, but while discussing this topic, I’ve found myself defending ending a toxic friendship. To examine your choices so history doesn’t repeat itself. Over time, it’s more than healthy to have self-reflection in any capacity. So while my 20s were spent forgiving others, my 30s, so far, have been spent forgiving myself. Choosing to ignore or accept something negative doesn’t make it void, it just makes you really good at being an accomplice. I’d like to think it was because I was naturally void of judgment - I accepted others for who they were, regardless of negative tendencies without endorsing change - but ultimately, I see it now as naivety and toxicity. all flocked to me as if I were free Chipotle. Let’s discuss, shall we?Īs an inherently trusting child / teenager, I have befriended someone from almost every personality disorder there is - really it’s a gift. ![]() But at the risk of sounding judgmental, closed-minded, or heaven forbid absolutely right, I’ll say probably not. Can you be friends with a chronic liar? Short answer: No. ![]()
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